Tips To Get More Sex and Intimacy From Your Wife.

Maybe you?ve already tried helping out more around the house. Maybe you?re already paying all the bills. Maybe you?ve showered her with gifts. And still, she does not give you enough sex.

The following tips will be of immense help to you;

Your wife needs a love story?I don?t care if it?s a movie a romance novel, or you making up a story and telling it to her?she needs for you to provide her with a love story so that she can access that intimate and sexual part of herself ? and be able to satisfy you with it.

Fellows, you wife needs variety ? something different from the normal, every-day run-of-the-mill sameness to spark her up. And yes, you might think that she should be able to supply this spark on her own but she can?t. You?re the catalyst that?s to provide her with the spark she needs. If she didn?t need you to spark her up, then she wouldn?t need you now would she? If your wife describes her life as ?Always the same?nothing different?same, same, same?boring, boring, boring?monotonous, monotonous, monotonous?? then I can reliably predict that you have a mostly sexless marriage and relationship.This is where marriage therapy sets in.

Guys, when it comes time for intimacy, slow down, relax, pace yourself ? take control of yourself so you can take care of your woman. Most women complain that their husband just grabs, gropes, pokes, and pulls for a few seconds and then he?s ready to ?jump in?. Guys, here?s what I want you to do?reflect back to a time when you were in a really bad mood and recall how long it took you to transition out of that bad mood into a good mood. If you?re anything like the normal man, it usually takes at least an overnight sleep off to shift out of the bad mood. Even if it doesn?t take you this long, it definitely takes you more than a few seconds to shift moods. Guess what? It?s exactly the same for your lady. She needs TIME in order to shift her mood from non-sexual to sexual and if you don?t give her this time, the experience is completely irritating and frustrating for her ? just like it is for you when someone asks you to smile and be happy when you?re not in a good mood. In simple terms, the fast track to sex is just NOT SEXY to most women

How do you do the ?slow down? I described in the previous step? You do it by shifting the focus from you going to her to her coming to you. How do you do that? First, you make sure your body and mouth is clean and fresh and that you?re fully dressed. Second, make sure the timing is right. If she?s in the middle of something, if she?s about to start something then the timing is wrong. Far too many guys want sex and they don?t get it simply because they pick a bad time to initiate it. Assuming these bases are covered, you walk up to your lady ? and you KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF OF HER. Let only your lips touch hers?kiss her?lightly?slowly?just your lips?continue keeping your hands off of her?let a little moan of pleasure come from inside you just to let her know that you find it pleasurable kissing her?continue kissing her slowly and lightly?your lips just barely brushing hers?and you keep doing this and nothing else. Eventually, she?s going to respond in some way?maybe she?ll put her hands on you?maybe she?ll try to put your hands on her?maybe she?ll initiate a more intimate form of kissing by giving you her tongue. Whatever it is, you give her that for just a few seconds and then you pull back and go back to nothing more than the light lips touching and brushing and then give it back to her for a few seconds and then pull back again. In a woman?s mind, this is one of the hottest things a guy can do is slowly and sensually tease her. You?ll find out that this is true for yourself in that your lady will begin to become more and more aggressive, sexual, and direct in her touch. That?s excellent?you just let her keep on coming to you?keep letting her ratchet things upward while you provide the ?resistance? by going with her for a few seconds and then pulling back slightly by going back to the previous ?level?. Pretty soon, she?ll be a woman whose sexual flame is active.This is part of online marriage counselling.

When it comes to getting more sex, ignore all that nonsense about flowers and dinners and buying things for your lady. This kind of ?romance? is NOT going to put your lady in the mood. Actually, it?s going to squelch her mood even more because it?s exerting more pressure on her ? the wrong kind of pressure. It?s wrong because it?s seen as you trying to butter her up for sex ? you trying to motivate her to have sex. She?ll know the things you?ve bought her are because you?re wanting ?something? and not because you have an overpowering need to express your love for her. You need to save your marriage. And she, like most anybody, will withdraw when she sees a person being extra ?nice? for no known reason.

Considered from another perspective, why would you ?reward? your lady for ?bad? behaviour? Why would you buy her flowers and dinners and other things when she hasn?t ?put out?? This may sound a bit crass, but you should seriously consider this point?both you and your wife would feel better about money being spent AFTER the two of you have had a wonderful time of intimacy and sexual expression. In this model of buying AFTERWARDS, you?re genuinely able to express your true love and she?s being rewarded for her ?good? behaviour which means she?ll be more inclined to be intimate again. When you buy things AFTERWARDS, you?re able to genuinely express love and you?re not trying to ?get? something.

Sometimes, you can help other people snap out of their undesirable behaviours when you present their behaviour back to them in an unusual way that causes them to see themselves in a new light. So for example, at a strategic moment, you might say something like the following to your lady when she?s resisting sex, ?It seems rather odd to me that you argue yourself out of a good time???? Or, you might say something like, ?Does it ever strike you as strange or bizarre that you often ?excuse? yourself out of the very romance and intimacy that you want???? In a nutshell, what you?re doing is presenting a person with the notion that THEY are BLOCKING the very thing that they are wanting ? and if presented in the right way at the right time ? you can have a very powerful effect on them. Often, it?s the very thing that?s need to ?shock them? and ?wake them up? and get them to ?snap out of? their undesirable behaviours

Tips To Get More Sex and Intimacy From Your Wife.

Maybe you?ve already tried helping out more around the house. Maybe you?re already paying all the bills. Maybe you?ve showered her with gifts. And still, you are not able to get enough sex from her

Then take a look at these helpful tips below;

Your wife needs a love story?I don?t care if it?s a movie a romance novel, or you are making up a story and telling it to her?she needs for you to provide her with a love story so that she can access that intimate and sexual part of herself ? and be able to share it with you.

Fellows, you wife needs varieties? something different from the normal, every-day run-of-the-mill sameness to spark her up. And yes, you might think that she should be able to supply this spark on her own but she can?t. You?re the catalyst that?s to provide her with the spark she needs. If she didn?t need you to spark her up, then she wouldn?t need you now would she? If your wife describes her life as ?Always the same?nothing different?same, same, same?boring, boring, boring?monotonous, monotonous, monotonous?? then I can reliably predict that you have a mostly sexless marriage or relationship.

Guys, when it comes time for intimacy, slow down, relax, pace yourself ? take control of yourself so you can take care of your woman. Most women complain that their husband just grabs, gropes, pokes, and pulls for a few seconds and then he?s ready to ?jump in?. Guys, here?s what I want you to do?reflect back to a time when you were in a really bad mood and recall how long it took you to transition out of that bad mood into a good mood. If you?re anything like the normal man, it usually takes at least an overnight sleep off to shift out of the bad mood. Even if it doesn?t take you this long, it definitely takes you more than a few seconds to shift moods. Guess what? It?s exactly the same for your lady. She needs TIME in order to shift her mood from non-sexual to sexual and if you don?t give her this time, the experience is completely irritating and frustrating for her ? just like it is for you when someone asks you to smile and be happy when you?re not in a good mood. In simple terms, the fast track to sex is just NOT SEXY to most women.

How do you do the ?slow down? I described in the previous step? You do it by shifting the focus from you going to her to her coming to you. How do you do that? First, you make sure your body and mouth is clean and fresh and that you?re fully dressed. Second, make sure the timing is right. If she?s in the middle of something, if she?s about to start something then the timing is wrong. Far too many guys want sex and they don?t get it simply because they pick a bad time to initiate it. Assuming these bases are covered, you walk up to your lady ? and you KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF OF HER. Let only your lips touch hers?kiss her?lightly?slowly?just your lips?continue keeping your hands off of her?let a little moan of pleasure come from inside you just to let her know that you find it pleasurable kissing her?continue kissing her slowly and lightly?your lips just barely brushing hers?and you keep doing this and nothing else. Eventually, she?s going to respond in some way?maybe she?ll put her hands on you?maybe she?ll try to put your hands on her?maybe she?ll initiate a more intimate form of kissing by giving you her tongue. Whatever it is, you give her that for just a few seconds and then you pull back and go back to nothing more than the light lips touching and brushing and then give it back to her for a few seconds and then pull back again. In a woman?s mind, this is one of the hottest things a guy can do is slowly and sensually tease her. You?ll find out that this is true for yourself in that your lady will begin to become more and more aggressive, sexual, and direct in her touch. That?s excellent?you just let her keep on coming to you?keep letting her ratchet things upward while you provide the ?resistance? by going with her for a few seconds and then pulling back slightly by going back to the previous ?level?. Pretty soon, she?ll be a woman whose sexual flame is active

When it comes to getting more sex, ignore all that nonsense about flowers and dinners and buying things for your lady. This kind of ?romance? is NOT going to put your lady in the mood. Actually, it?s going to squelch her mood even more because it?s exerting more pressure on her ? the wrong kind of pressure. It?s wrong because it?s seen as you trying to butter her up for sex ? you trying to motivate her to have sex. She?ll know the things you?ve bought her are because you?re wanting ?something? and not because you have an overpowering need to express your love for her. And she, like most anybody, will withdraw when she sees a person being extra ?nice? for no apparent reason.

Considered from another perspective, why would you ?reward? your lady for ?bad? behaviour? Why would you buy her flowers and dinners and other things when she hasn?t ?put out?? This may sound a bit crass, but you should seriously consider this point?both you and your wife would feel better about money being spent AFTER the two of you have had a wonderful time of intimacy and sexual expression. In this model of buying AFTERWARDS, you?re genuinely able to express your true love and she?s being rewarded for her ?good? behaviour which means she?ll be more inclined to be intimate again. When you buy things AFTERWARDS, you?re able to express real love and you?re not trying to ?get? something

Sometimes, you can help other people snap out of their undesirable behaviours when you present their behaviour back to them in an unusual way that causes them to see themselves in a new light. So for example, at a strategic moment, you might say something like the following to your lady when she?s resisting sex, ?It seems rather odd to me that you argue yourself out of a good time???? Or, you might say something like, ?Does it ever strike you as strange or bizarre that you often ?excuse? yourself out of the very romance and intimacy that you want???? In a nutshell, what you?re doing is presenting a person with the notion that THEY are BLOCKING the very thing that they are wanting ? and if presented in the right way at the right time ? you can have a very powerful effect on them. Often, it?s the very thing that?s need to ?shock them? and ?wake them up? and get them to ?snap out of? their undesirable behaviours

Reading Your Partners Mind

When Grace came to see me, she was in the process of counting how many times in the past year her husband had turned on the television when she wanted to talk to him—not that she had ever told him she wanted to talk. She left him oblivious to her upset, while her resentment built at his failure to magically “know” what was on her mind.

When we are young it seems as if our caretakers magically know when we need to eat and what they must do to take care of us. Children have a family romance in which their parents are always wise and good. This is extended to the whole world via the culture of children’s stories, in which wonderful things happen to the good guys and the bad guys get their due

The Prince comes. The slipper fits. They live happily ever after

In adulthood this can become the expectation: that our partners should always know what we need without our having to tell them. When our partner fails to read our minds and to “magically” know our needs, resentment builds. We can take our partner’s “blindness” as a criticism of what we want or as a failure to do their part in the relationship. I have seen many couples who both believe that the other one knows, “just knows,” what it is they need and is withholding it for reasons of perversity or vindictiveness. This leads to a kind of passivity and watching in the relationship. We wait and wait for our partner to recognize us by doing for us the thing we feel they should know to do. We describe this, as it has often been called as, “saving brown stamps.” Meanwhile, resentment builds and we cease to be a proper participant in the relationship

Our belief that there is a force outside of our lives magically steering it toward love and happiness is deeply ingrained; usually it is only given up as a consequence of repeated disappointments. Even when it is, we can still become involved in trying to be the perfect person ourselves, believing that our slimness or muscularity will exercise a magical attraction on others around us. Thus women become anorexic and men spend hours at the gym. These behaviors often represent an attempt to keep our belief in magic alive.

Creating Conscious Relationships

Do you ever recall walking into a room and immediately feeling the heavy, lingering negativity after a couple has had a fight?



How can couples learn to handle those powerful emotions that can be generated between them?



To create a conscious relationship it´s important to be aware of the feelings that are created between partners, especially for intimate couples, because their combined emotions are greater than the sum of their individual parts. When couples become aware and learn to be mindful of the energy that is created between them, rather than focus on their individual differences, they are creating conscious relationships
. This is part of online marriage counselling.


I`ve observed the tendency of partners to first go through the romantic phase of their relationship, where their combined conscious remains buoyant, lively and fulfilling. At this point they don´t perceive differences in each other. The feelings between these couples shines a bright light across the world and life is viewed from a beautiful kaleidoscope. There is perfect love and romance before the couples. During this romantic phase, couples project on their partner and the world a canvas filled with images of beauty, goodness and pure love. And this focus on the combined rainbow of beautiful colors catapults them into a higher consciousness.

Robert Johnson observed that falling in love is meant to be an initiation into a world much greater than the individual - it is an introduction to the ideals of love, truth and beauty that g0es beyond ordinary life and is seriously opposed to falling love.



When couples begin to become aware of the differences and faults in one another, they fail to realize that their partner is a symbol and catalyst for the poetry of life. During the romantic phase they view each other in an idealized manner. But, months or years later, when they are entrenched in power struggles, their partner becomes a cardboard-cut-out on which they project threatening characters from their own past. Such perceptions launch soulless, automatic, rigid, right vs. wrong games that separate partners not only from one another, but from the positive transcendent of their combined consciousness and such needs marriage help.



Instead of couples wishing for a judge and jury to litigate their individual differences, they can develop tools that will enable them know how to save their marriage and therefore manage the potentially creative or destructive powers which often unconsciously exist between them

1. Focus on the process between you, rather than your differences.



2. Work on accepting the imperfections of both yourself and your partner, while looking for the deeper meaning in repetitive arguments.

3. Get curious about your learned patterns that you project onto your partner

4. Learn to use the combined relationship emotions for creative life-enhancement, instead of destructive maneuvers



5. Work to make each other´s lives larger, instead of smaller.



6. Co-create a picture of what your ideal relationship looks like and visualize that image daily.



7. Make a commit, to yourself and to each other, to not participate in destructive interactions that can damage and may ultimately destroy shared consciousness. Overcome all infidelity test.



In "Embracing The Beloved", Stephen and Ondrea Levine write, how in a spiritual here and now process, they view one another as, "beingness" constantly unfolding. They also refer to combined consciousness as a, "beloved energy."

It can be a difficult process to transform our power struggles into creative energy. As Thomas Merton wrote, "... true love and prayers are learned in the moment when prayer has become impossible and the heart has turned to stone."



Marion Woodman describes the first time she saw her husband free of her own projections after three years of marriage, when she heard him rattling around the kitchen, attempting to poach an egg. At first, she began to think in terms of "shoulds", becoming judgmental of his inadequacy in the kitchen. Then, she let go of all judgment and became able to see him for himself for the very first time, as he stood on spindly legs in his bermuda shorts, holding an imperfect poached egg. She felt such profound love.

Learn to watch with "soft eyes." Watch without any judgment, with compassion and loving kindness.